December 2019 – Giving Presence this Holiday Season

Buying something special and giving it to someone we deeply care about can be a very satisfying thing to do. However, something that may be even more meaningful and needed is the gift of presence. Offering others our quality time, undivided attention and acts of kindness is an investment that is memorable and heart-centered.

Rather than this season being all about giving presents, gifting presence creates relationship depth, nurtures goodwill, and connects us with shared deeper values. Here are ways to be offer more presence this holiday season:

Presence for Ourselves
In order to be present with others, we need to take care of ourselves. This might begin by us getting adequate sleep, reducing stress, and eating well. The idea is to give ourselves permission to take time out and focus on what we need.

  1. Enjoy quiet moments wherever you feel at peace…in nature, alone or in the company of others.
  2. Exercise when you can, stay rested and get enough sleep.
  3. Avoid overindulgence in holiday food, alcohol and caffeine.

Resist the temptation to fill the natural spaces in your daily schedule and instead, let them fill you. What is something you can give to yourself that would make you feel more at peace and more healthy?

Presence for Others
If you don’t have a holiday tradition, perhaps start one now – we might host gatherings with a seasonal theme, offer a meal to others, join our children in a community based volunteer opportunity, take a special day trip or spend time outdoors.

Establish a new tradition that reacquaints us (and our families) on how to give, how to share and how to make a positive difference in the lives of others by giving gifts of the heart.

Consider making time to “talk first and tech later” – putting aside our social media and technology connections for part of a day or even longer. To join with others or commit to ourselves to try and be fully available to the person right in front of us. To remain present body, mind and heart-filled spirit. To listen and laugh and play. To be kind and understanding of each person we meet, each person we live with and those we see walking through crowds or by us on the street.

Presence for our Community
Being generous and contributing with kindness, respectfulness, understanding and time are all ways to be present in the communities to which we belong. This includes the places we work, play, go to school, shop, volunteer, spend time online, or interact with others.

We might encourage our children to look beyond their own holiday wish lists. Ask them to choose a toy or book to donate to a children’s charity or have them help you choose groceries and deliver them to the local food bank.

Participate in seasonal fund raising activities such as charity run/walks, concerts, donation drives and dinners that provide benefit to local community service programs and projects. Take time to enjoy your community. Shop, eat, play, take walks and interact with others locally.

Take steps to make this holiday truly a time of meaning, peace and joy for you. If you find the stress of this season getting the best of you, you may wish to contact us here at Vancouver Island Counselling.

We wish you and your families a joyous and peaceful holiday season and a happy and healthy 2020!