June 2019 – Resilience

Resilience is the ability to cope successfully and withstand the stress of an internal/external crisis and return to pre-crisis status quickly.  So an internal crisis might be worry, fear or anxiety over some ongoing stressor at work whereas an external one might be say a crisis at work involving co-workers in an accident.

Why is the nurturing of resilience useful? Because by fostering resilience, it inoculates or immunizes us. If we are inoculated we have an immunity against any particular stressor that might come up or affect us. This applies to a small stressor like spilling coffee down the front of your shirt to having a major life crisis.

The more resources we have at our disposal, the less likely we are to panic. And the less likely we are to panic, the more likely we are to be able to be relaxed and thus be creative and solve the problem as best we can.

Bear in mind that resilience is not just blind optimism, believing that “everything will work out fine”.  Nor is it the denial of real, profound loss. It is not like the song: “Don’t worry be happy!” How can you be happy when you have been hit with really great loss?  However, it is about courageously picking up the pieces AFTER you have had a profound loss. 

Cultivating a Resilient Mindset

  1. Develop evidence based and reality tested thinking.
  2. Set goals and schedule related actions.
  3. Be a realistic optimist.
  4. Give yourself permission to feel and process your
  5. Write about your experiences.
  6. Let go of your entitlement and unrealistic expectations of self and others.
  7. Don’t expect to be happy all the time.
  8. Develop caring relationships and celebrate that.
  9. Develop a practice of gratitude, mindfulness and/or service to others.
  10. Take responsibility for your decisions, feelings and the results of both.

 

Some research on factors of resilience illustrates that resilient people have (or foster) the following personal traits:

  1. They have an alert, active temperament. Meaning they “Do, rather than stew”
  2. They have high sociability. In other words, they are socially connected to resources. “Better to have 100 friends than 100 dollars.”
  3. They have good communication skills or at least cultivate them. In other words they don’t clam up, they talk to people while trying to understand their problem or while trying to find a solution to it.
  4. Finally, they also have a “strong internal locus of control” meaning they try to act or take responsibility as much as possible for their own deeds or correcting the possible problems created by others’ actions.  They actively take care of their health and well-being.

If you would like to know more about what resilience is or perhaps take a brief survey on  how you can improve your resilience, you might want to check out the following website:

 

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/resilience